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At one time or another, a husband or wife will express the need for “Me Time”, which is not necessarily the sign of a troubled marriage. Often, the wise and compassionate course of action seems to be to give the partner a little time to themselves.
However, with Holy Matrimony being modelled after Christ’s relationship with his Church (Christ being the groom, and the Church being his bride), the seemingly benign nature of Me Time might need a second look. Rather than Me Time, what might be more urgently needed is We Time; a time for husband and wife to be together with Christ through prayer.
This contention can be supported with both scripture and by the Catechism of the Catholic Church (CCC). Christ himself said, “where two or three are gather together in my name there am I in the midst of them” (Matthew 18:20). CCC paragraph 1088 cites this verse from Matthew as Christ’s promise which is fulfilled when “he is present when the Church prays and sings.”
By coming together in prayer in We Time, whatever satisfaction one partner was seeking from Me Time will be greatly exceeded. The real strength in the “We” is not just the combined strength of husband and wife coming together, but by the third person of the “We”, namely Jesus Christ, who joins them through their prayer.
We Time is better than Me Time, but there something even better. Because Christ carries our prayers to God, We Time becomes He Time!